When Choosing your Bridesmaids you need to have a clear idea of the type of Wedding you are going to have. If a small event is planned then having a large Wedding Party with to many Bridesmaids would seem silly. There is not point having a bigger Wedding Party than there are guests.
Wedding Party Size
Large Wedding Parties and too many Bridesmaids can also look over done and ridiculous. This Bride has been flaunted all over the internet because she had 24 Bridesmaids. Some may be impressed by this, but I think the majority of people would think this many Bridesmaids is a blatant waste of resources and ridiculous in the extreme. Having been a Bride some years ago I feel sorry for this Bride, for me coordinating a Maid of Honor and one Bridesmaid was enough to manage, imagine 24, my brain hurts just thinking about it. I’ve also observed that many of these Bridesmaids look to be under 5 years of age. I don’t know if you have had any experience with toddlers, but trying to get a number of them to walk down the aisle, in order and at the right pace must have been a mammoth task.
Talk to the Groom
So you need to spend some time talking to your husband to be. Although you, the Bride, are the focal point on the Wedding Day, it is his day too. Work it out together and agree on the size of the Wedding Party and stick to it. Discuss with your future husband likely candidates for the roles of Best Man and Maid of Honor then you will be on the same page.
Make a List
One way of Choosing your Bridesmaids is to make some lists. Make a list of your best friends. Then make another list of your most loyal and dependable friends, be honest, this is most important? Who was there for you even when you were being unreasonable? Who stuck by you when things went wrong? Who was it that put your needs above their own?
Take a look at your two lists, do they match? If they do great… all you need to do now is ask your friends to be your Bridesmaids to be in your Wedding Party. If the lists don’t match you have some thinking to do.
Skin Deep
Another thing to consider is the Wedding photos, apposed to your enjoyment of the Wedding Day. Your “Pretty” friend may look great in the photos but is she going to support you, help you with the Wedding arrangements and make the Wedding Day memorable for you or will she be more concerned with herself? It might sound harsh, but you will depend on your Bridesmaids for a lot over the coming months and weeks leading up to the Wedding Day and Choosing your Bridesmaids wisely can make all the difference.
The Bridesmaid List
Your Wedding Party is almost complete. Once you have the Bridesmaid list you need may need help in Choosing the Maid of Honor from that list. Please go to the Previous post titles Choosing your Maid of Honor for some Bride Tips and ideas on how to choose the perfect Maid of Honor.
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